Thoughts to ponder on

"Don’t do something permanently stupid just because you are temporarily upset."


"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."


"Never use bad memories from your past to deal with someone in the present."


"Value the people who love, respect and trust you the most, & forget about the people who don't deserve you."


"Just remember, it's a small business and a long life. You're going to see all these people again." - Steve Ross, former CEO of Time Warner


"My mother always taught me never to look back in regret but to move on to the next thing. The amount of time people waste dwelling on failures rather than putting that energy into another project, always amazes me. I have fun running ALL the Virgin businesses — so a setback is never a bad experience, just a learning curve." - Richard Branson

Partner in Life

I didn't write this. I can't remember where I saw this statement though, but it gives us an image on how we should be in our relationship. It's a very nice thought to reflect on. 


Two people in a relationship should work together to improve themselves and their bond. What's the point of being in a relationship if you don't see yourself being together for the rest of your lives, right?


"A man is like a pillar, a woman like the crossbeam. A man is like the legs of a person, a woman like the trunk. A man is like the wings of a bird, a woman like the body. If the wings and the body become separated, then how can the bird fly? And if the pillar topples then the crossbeam will surely fall to the ground. Love is not two people gazing at each other, but two people looking ahead together in the same direction. A healthy relationship is one in which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals while sharing each other's hopes and dreams. A relationship should be a source of inspiration, invigoration, and hope. If you genuinely love someone, then through your relationship with him or her, you can develop into a person whose love extends to all humanity. Such a relationship serves to strengthen, elevate, and enrich the inner realm of your life."

Repost: Putting the Fire Out

I was much more creative (and inspired) back then to write. I'm actually quite impressed with how I write down the thoughts in my head in a poetic manner. 


These days, I don't write anymore. I wish I could find the inspiration to write again. . 
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i started a fire and now i have to end it. the pieces of my heart i picked up already but i can't seem to put them in place. i still dream of you, but i know they are just the remnants of the pieces i patched up. they are what's left and soon it will heal and be new again. that's what i'm waiting for. i pray it heals soon so that i would never have to endure the dreams, nay, the nightmares that leaves me crying at night. so that i wouldn't have to let all my thoughts go back to your memories again. i'm sorry if you think what this is is that i wanted to forget. i don't want to, but to let my heart be captured again by him who guides my heart even through the darkness, through the cold shadows, between living and death, i should be able to. he might not be here yet but he will come..soon.


we were once given a chance. something i think i did not plan. but here we are again, in between taking chances and losing it. i think we are both on our own roads. but please let me say this that what we had was something so magical and so unique that not even the gods had ever thought of creating. it must be so special that we need to have it for our own. still i thank you for that, from the deepest part of my soul.


you made me love you, i didn't want to do it. but i did. and i never thought soaring to the sky would be the best i ever did. i wish it would still be when he comes. i don't mind stepping on jagged rocks just to be with him. if that's what it takes, then it might be what i need to do. the pain and the wounds would not matter if at the end, i would have him, the only one. and he will come, someday.


to you to whom my heart burns, this is what i wanted. i will take care of the pieces left behind. i don't want to burn your whole memory. i still would want to catch a glimpse of you in some unexpected chances. i will not let you dissappear from me. you would still be you, locked deep in the depths of my emptiness. and im sure for a while i would still look for you. but i must try and endure it for him, who in my mind, has already given up the world of fantasy and make believe, just to have me in his arms.


adieu to you, my flame, the blazing light, the scattered embers... the fire burns me, but its for the best..



Written in 2006

Repost: A Lesson We All Learn On Our Own

t took time but at least I made an effort to really move on. There maybe times that you want to talk to them, to check on how they're doing, still I did my best to not feel that warm feeling inside. That sudden rush of emotion that you want to tell that Ex. IT'S NOT REAL. They're just small remnants deep inside. You don't have to always succumb to that emotion, no matter how really nice and how good were the times you spent together. Yes it's true, they've wasted away... but what can you do?? The relationship is over, and you really have to move on. If you want new experiences, then you have to make one. You need to keep your heart and mind open to other ideas, other love around. You really can't keep rushing back to the ex, thinking there might still be a chance. No matter how long the relationship took, when it's over, it has to be over once you decide.


So you must decide now. Love will not wait for you to change your mind. There should be an effort on your part, and you should be decisive and firm. Yes we all want to be friends with them, but that will just happen on its own. You don't have to make it your point to be friends with them. You can be friends or acquaintances in time... it doesn't have to be now. Believe me, it'll come on its own. And it will be the time when you know you can be friends with them, with no emotions attached to it. That is how you define starting anew.


Do what you have to do to move on. But remember that it involves personal effort on your side and a decision that you want to move on. Alot of things can happen. Fate has such funny ways to make everything confusing for us. But don't jump into another relationship just to forget someone. Your excess emotional baggage will be brought into that relationship and just ruin it. Sometimes it works, sometimes  it don't.


You'll be fine and you're not alone. Everyone experiences this. Just remember that Love also plays tricks on everyone. You will still fall in love. You don't know it but you might be falling in love now. And the best thing is, it's better than the other one. It always is. You just have to work on it to be better. You and your partner both have. Don't forget to enjoy the crazy ride. It what makes the love blossom into something good.


Thus, this is getting over.... moving on.... letting go.... and growing up =)


written March 2008