Repost: A Lesson We All Learn On Our Own

t took time but at least I made an effort to really move on. There maybe times that you want to talk to them, to check on how they're doing, still I did my best to not feel that warm feeling inside. That sudden rush of emotion that you want to tell that Ex. IT'S NOT REAL. They're just small remnants deep inside. You don't have to always succumb to that emotion, no matter how really nice and how good were the times you spent together. Yes it's true, they've wasted away... but what can you do?? The relationship is over, and you really have to move on. If you want new experiences, then you have to make one. You need to keep your heart and mind open to other ideas, other love around. You really can't keep rushing back to the ex, thinking there might still be a chance. No matter how long the relationship took, when it's over, it has to be over once you decide.


So you must decide now. Love will not wait for you to change your mind. There should be an effort on your part, and you should be decisive and firm. Yes we all want to be friends with them, but that will just happen on its own. You don't have to make it your point to be friends with them. You can be friends or acquaintances in time... it doesn't have to be now. Believe me, it'll come on its own. And it will be the time when you know you can be friends with them, with no emotions attached to it. That is how you define starting anew.


Do what you have to do to move on. But remember that it involves personal effort on your side and a decision that you want to move on. Alot of things can happen. Fate has such funny ways to make everything confusing for us. But don't jump into another relationship just to forget someone. Your excess emotional baggage will be brought into that relationship and just ruin it. Sometimes it works, sometimes  it don't.


You'll be fine and you're not alone. Everyone experiences this. Just remember that Love also plays tricks on everyone. You will still fall in love. You don't know it but you might be falling in love now. And the best thing is, it's better than the other one. It always is. You just have to work on it to be better. You and your partner both have. Don't forget to enjoy the crazy ride. It what makes the love blossom into something good.


Thus, this is getting over.... moving on.... letting go.... and growing up =)


written March 2008